The problem with being anchored in unforgiveness is our true productivity, mental wellbeing, and physical health suffer. Set yourself free!
Yes, even at work, people say and do regrettable things. Others are wounded and embittered, but ultimately, all is forgiven and completely forgotten, right? Well, we can usually count on wounded and embittered! When unforgiveness festers in the workplace, colleagues struggle to collaborate, fail to help one another, and make poor decisions. Some co-workers even plan trips to the breakroom, just to avoid contact. These heavy burdens tug at our tender hearts and tether our minds to the past much like a boat is chained to an anchor at sea.
The problem with being anchored in unforgiveness is our true productivity, mental wellbeing, and physical health suffer. Some fear that by forgiving a team member, they are obligated to immediately trust that team member again. Rick Warren, Pastor of Saddleback Church, makes an important distinction, “Forgiveness is not the restoration of trust.” I agree, and further suggest that regaining trust is a process. In his two-part series titled The Prayer of Release, Warren offers 4 practical tests for identifying any lingering unforgiveness.
Using Warren’s insights, let’s test your commitment to unforgiveness:
You may have pinpointed one or more teammates who need your forgiveness (not for their sake, but for yours). It’s likely they don’t know they hurt you or disrespected you. Even if they do know and may have been intentional about their transgression, Jesus invites us to forgive 490 times (Matthew 18:21, 22). I guess you could track this on your whiteboard or in a spreadsheet. His implication, of course, is that we forgive INFINITELY. Who needs accountability? What are your lessons learned? How can you establish win-win scenarios? Or grant a second chance? May you be free from the weight of unforgiveness. Anchors aweigh, my dear leader, anchors aweigh!
[Love] does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ~ 1 Corinthians 13:5
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